5 Essential Tips for Parents Sending Kids to University or College

Sending your kids to post-secondary school can be a big change for parents, especially if they’re moving out of town.

Amid all the packing, the to-do lists, and the summer celebrations, it can be a shock to realize that your child is growing up and getting ready for the next stage of their life: adulthood. As a parent, your role during this time is crucial. You’ll likely be anxious, wondering if they’re prepared to leave—and whether you’re ready to let them. 

Here are a few tips to help ease the transition for both of you.  

Help them stay connected  

Thanks to the convenience of cell phones and tablets, staying connected has never been easier. A simple text to let your child know they’re in your thoughts can bridge the physical distance between you. Providing them with a reliable phone plan and internet access will allow them to dial in to you and their support networks whenever they need to. 

Be supportive 

As excited as your child might be, moving away from home can be a significant change. They’ll likely feel homesick, lonely or anxious. However, this is also a time of immense growth and new experiences for them. And as much as you’ll want to swoop in and fix everything, you won’t be able to. Offer supportive words, a listening ear and suggestions to help overcome this initial period. It won’t be long until new friends, activities and schoolwork take up their full attention. 

Be attuned to your own needs 

This period can be emotionally challenging for many parents. Whether it’s your first child, last child or somewhere in between, the absence of someone you’ve been closely living with for years can leave a void in the house—and your heart. It’s important to be kind to yourself and acknowledge any feelings of sadness, worry or stress. Use this time to re-engage in hobbies and activities you may have put on hold during your busy parenting years. Share your feelings with loved ones, and don’t hesitate to seek professional help if needed.  

Make sure they have a handle on basic life skills

Cooking, laundry, and balancing the cheque book are skills every young adult needs before striking out on their own. Hopefully, you’ve had the opportunity to introduce these skills in the past, but a refresher wouldn’t hurt, especially for kids who might be used to relying on their parents if they skip their chores. Some simple recipes, a laundry schedule, and a reminder to stay within their budget can help them adjust to their new living situation.

Look to your future

While your circumstances may have changed, your relationship with your child doesn’t have to. Your child might attend a school close enough for frequent weekend visits, or they may enjoy coming home during study periods and breaks. You can create excitement with special holiday plans or family trips to make every moment count. However you choose to build this new phase of your life is up to you and your child. It can be every bit as meaningful as the time you shared in the past.

The weeks before your child leaves for school will no doubt be nerve-wracking. It represents a major shift for your family but marks the beginning of a new and exciting time for both of you. Stay in touch with them and other parents in the same situation—it can help to know you’re not the only one going through this.

Good luck, and congratulations on raising such a great kid! Good things are ahead—for both of you!